Five Reasons Why You Should Never Say, “Sh*t happens,” to a Survivor.

It is rude, insensitive, and totally offensive.

It negates the impact of brutal systemic crime on the lives of a child, adolescent or adult.

Anyone who minimizes criminal violence depicts the height of desensitization or compassion burnout. This is usually the reality for social workers, not average citizens.

It is like telling someone whose spouse, child or parent was murdered, “Get over it.”

It can take a multiple-trauma victim or survivor from zero stress to 100 in a few short seconds.

The last reason is why I cannot say more right now.

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When Sickness Prevails

. . . we have quotes.

“Everyone has his own story, and everyone could arouse interest in the romance of his life if he but comprehended it.” George Sand

“You have a responsibility to tell history because people forget history.”
Leslie Brody

“History is nothing more than a thin bread of what is remembered stretched out over an ocean of what has been forgotten.” Milan Kundera

“I go out of my way; but rather by license than carelessness. My ideas follow one another; but sometimes it is from a distance, and look at each; but with a sidelong glance … I love the poetic, by leaps and gambols ….” Michel de Montaigne

“Starting here, what do you want to remember?
How sunlight creeps along a shining floor?
What scent of old wood hovers, what softened
sound from outside fills the air?

Will you ever bring a better gift for the world
than the breathing respect that you carry
wherever you go right now? Are you waiting
for time to show you some better thoughts?” William Stafford.

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